While working in New York City, I trained myself not to look at the people I passed or even acknowledge them. That was quite a change for me since growing up in the South it was required that you speak or, at the very least, nod to the person you pass on the street. Last week, I watched the Tuohy’s television interview on Good Morning America.
They were talking about how one small moment can change your life. Their motto now is “Turn around” since those two words started their journey. When I was growing up, there was space for everyone to move here on earth. Now, there is less and less space for us as our population grows. Consequently, we have created our personal space. We maintain an aloof attitude as we wander through life.
But I wonder how much of life we miss. Whenever I see a news story about someone helping people in other countries, I always wonder why they aren’t helping the folks at home. There are plenty of people all around us who need help of one kind or another. Why would we shun them and turn to help others? By sending $10.00 a month we can help that unknown person so far away. Isn’t that the key? We send our money and never have to become involved. We feel safe and smug that we are helping someone. We can help without becoming involved.
The truth is that becoming involved with someone is the best way to enrich other’s lives and ours. Life becomes more meaningful and precious. This is what the Tuohys discovered by bringing Michael Oher into their home. Both sides learned and grew from the experience.
However, helping others is tricky. We must acknowledge that even though someone may need help it doesn’t mean they want to become a rubber stamp of us. They want the opportunity to grow and become their own self. Helping doesn’t have to cost financially; true help is reaching out to someone, be they friend or stranger, and putting a smile on their face.