My children were brought up to believe that anything is possible and that their attitude toward whatever happened would shape their lives. They were encouraged to maintain a positive attitude delineating their options and with sufficient information making the decision that is right for them in that particular situation. I only rarely look back and, yes, sometimes rue the choices made, but I know that it was the best one possible at that time.
A life lived with all due deliberation and careful thought isn’t necessarily filled with excitement, but it is satisfying and fulfilling. These are the things that my parents, particularly my mother, passed on to me and now to their grandchildren and great-grandchildren. There was a time in my life where I was free from all obligations to explore the world and myself and to grow. When the time came for children and all the responsibilities they bring, it was time to end the exploration and concentrate on those that I had brought into the world.
Looking back, it’s easy to remember how endless those days seemed. It had never been my ambition to be a parent, but once the decision was made to have children, I gave the best that I had to them. The things that my parents taught me added to those that I had learned was poured into my children. That doesn’t mean that I was a perfect parent then or now. It was just that my attitude was that they hadn’t asked to come into this world and it was my responsibility to provide for them emotionally and mentally, to prepare them for the world that awaited.
I have never thought of myself as lucky believing that luck is earned with a lot of hard work. However, when it comes to my children, I’m very lucky. The work that went into forming who they are was worth it. The traits that their father and I passed on evolved them into adults that I proudly claim as mine. Their successes are the product of years of work, attentiveness, and care. Parenting is the most difficult thing one does requiring dedication, steadfastness, and consistency. There are no rewards for parenting while you are completing it; it is a thankless task. Children will defy and torment their parents; with uncanny accuracy, they know all your buttons and push them often. The parent must remember what the goal is and rise above the temptation to kill them. After all, attitude is everything.